Impatience, Dopamine, and the Cost of Instant Gratification

All good things come to those who wait. It’s a very true statement, yet it’s one that many people hate to hear. Why do we struggle so much with being patient and enjoying the process?

One major reason is instant gratification. With social media apps like Instagram, TikTok, and Snapchat becoming the main form of communication—especially for ages 12 to 24—we’ve grown accustomed to constant stimulation. Sending funny reels, scrolling endlessly, and receiving instant responses has trained our brains to crave quick rewards.

Dopamine, the chemical responsible for pleasure and motivation, has essentially become one of the world’s most powerful drugs. Instead of finding satisfaction in long-term effort, we’ve learned to expect immediate results, making patience feel uncomfortable and even frustrating.

This isn’t a bash on technology—so many useful resources and opportunities have come from our devices and even from social media. However, it’s unfortunate that we live in a world where our efforts to learn, grow, and evolve are often filtered through a quick and easy search engine. Where’s the reward in that?

As stated by Neuroscience News, researchers have found that increasing dopamine levels through a medication called Levodopa (L-DOPA) allows people to wait slightly longer for both short-term and long-term rewards, reducing impulsive decision-making by up to 20%. This drug is commonly used to help restore dopamine efficiency in patients with neurological conditions such as Parkinson’s disease.

Of course, this isn’t a green light to clear the shelves and start taking L-DOPA. Our difficulty with becoming patient may stem from a lack of dopamine. So, the real question becomes: how can we restore it naturally?

Balanced lifestyle habits

The main one that I’m sure you are already aware about. Yet somehow, 1 in 5 humans in the world die solely from an unhealthy diet. 11 million deaths were reported in 2017 due to a diet high in sugar, salt, and processed foods. It was also reported that as of 2022, nearly 31% of the world’s population was physically inactive. I won’t sit here and explain the benefits of healthy eating and regular exercise (not in this post at least). But what are some ways we can live a little bit of a healthier lifestyle?

30-60 Minutes of physical activity EVERYDAY

This doesn’t mean you need to be drenched in sweat or lifting extreme amounts of weight. Even simple activities like a brisk walk, a light jog, or a short bike ride can significantly improve overall health and even increase lifespan. While everyone knows that exercise won’t kill you—and most of us could benefit from a few more gym sessions—it also plays a powerful role in brain chemistry.

Completing a workout boosts mood and activates the brain’s reward system, increasing the release of dopamine, serotonin (which affects mood, sleep, and emotional regulation), and norepinephrine (which supports energy, focus, and alertness). Over time, consistent exercise helps the brain become more efficient at producing and regulating these neurotransmitters, which can improve motivation, reduce impulsivity, and strengthen the ability to delay gratification.

Exercise also enhances neuroplasticity, the brain’s ability to adapt and form new neural connections. This means that physical activity doesn’t just improve mood in the short term—it literally strengthens the brain’s reward and motivation circuits, making it easier to stick to long-term goals.

Alternative food choices

Providing the brain with proper nourishment gives it the fuel it needs to carry out everyday functions. Just as a Honda Odyssey would not run-on diesel fuel, the brain cannot function optimally when it is constantly fed fast food and processed meats. What we put into our bodies directly affects our ability to think, focus, and regulate behavior.

While supplementation can be helpful, it is most effective when paired with proper sleep, regular exercise, and reduced overstimulation. A high-protein diet, along with supplements such as vitamin D3, magnesium, and antioxidants, should be prioritized at each meal to support brain function.

Tyrosine is another key nutrient in dopamine production. It serves as a primary precursor in dopamine’s metabolic pathway. In the brain, the enzyme tyrosine hydroxylase converts tyrosine into L-DOPA, which is then synthesized into dopamine.

 Embodied prescence

This psychological approach is unlike any other. It may take time to achieve, but its benefits are profound. By practicing patience and deliberately delaying dopamine-driven rewards, we learn to resist the pull of instant gratification and retrain our brains to find satisfaction in long-term goals. In a world full of people stuck in their phones and computers, its unfortunately difficult to sit quietly and be present in the world around us.

Some of the best ways to practice patience and dopamine regulation start the very moment you wake up. Research shows that beginning your day with just 30 minutes of self-reflection can lower cortisol—the body’s stress hormone—and set a foundation for a more productive, focused day, which is crucial for healthy dopamine production. Here’s a practical morning routine to help you become more aware, present, and intentional:

1. Screen reduction
Your phone emits blue light, which can temporarily spike dopamine. However, prolonged exposure can suppress melatonin production, making it harder to reach REM sleep, which plays a vital role in learning, memory, and emotional processing. Limiting early-morning screen time helps your brain start the day without overstimulation and protects your natural sleep-wake cycles.

2. Direct sunlight
Expose yourself to sunlight within the first five minutes of waking. Natural light is crucial for your circadian rhythm, the body’s internal clock that controls sleep-wake cycles, hormone regulation, and overall energy. The circadian rhythm is regulated by the suprachiasmatic nucleus (SCN) in the brain, which responds to light, food, and activity. Even a short walk, stretching, or a few air squats can activate your body, boost alertness, and help you enter a natural flow state.

3. “Hang up and hang out”
This popular saying carries a valuable lesson: don’t get sucked into endless scrolling of negative or distracting content. To start, leave your phone behind for short errands or tasks, and set intentional screen time limits—then stick to them. Avoid screens at least an hour before bed to improve sleep quality, support natural dopamine cycles, and reduce mental fatigue.

By combining these simple practices—reflection, sunlight, movement, and mindful screen use—you create a morning routine that primes your brain for focus, motivation, and natural dopamine balance. Over time, these small, intentional habits can make patience and self-control feel effortless.

Work Hard, Get better.. Don’t overcomplicate it

An insight to Effort

What began as a simple saying on a tee-ball field became the guiding principle of my life, my business, and my philosophy: work hard, get better.

At face value, it sounds obvious. Effort in, results out. For most of human history, that equation was never questioned. Progress required work, and improvement demanded struggle. Yet today, despite having more tools, more information, and more convenience than ever before, we find ourselves resistant to effort.

If work truly leads to results, why do we live in a world that minimizes effort, thinking, and prioritizes instant outcomes?

The answer is uncomfortable: resilience and sustained effort are in decline. In a culture built on immediacy, patience is treated as unnecessary. Discipline is seen as too challenging. Perseverance is replaced by shortcuts. With the rise of artificial intelligence, information is always within reach, and entire professions now sit on the edge of extinction. Convenience has accelerated—but character has not.

And that gap matters.

When effort disappears, growth stalls. When struggle is avoided, resilience erodes. The very process that builds competence, confidence, and self-trust is quietly fading.

What’s often overlooked is that this process is not just philosophical, but it’s biological.

There is a region of the brain known as the anterior mid cingulate cortex (aMCC). It plays a central role in decision-making, willpower, motivation, and emotional regulation. This region becomes more active when we choose to do difficult things—especially the things we’d rather avoid. My father had a saying growing up “The things you don’t want to do, you should probably do them. “ If you’ve ever felt unmotivated, directionless, or disconnected from your best self, its not you, it’s your aMCC not firing properly.

The aMCC strengthens through effort. Through resistance. Through choosing discomfort over convenience.

It governs your willingness to engage with difficulty—to try, to fail, and to try again. And failure, when approached correctly, is not a setback. It’s proof of participation. As Mr. Universe Mike Mentzer once said, “You have achieved failure, thank God. Now the only place to go from failure is to win.”

Even small acts of discipline—completing a task you’ve been putting off, following through when motivation fades, finishing what you started, activate this system. Confidence isn’t achieved by shouting affirmations in the mirror, its about having undeniable evidence of saying who you are. Each time you push through resistance, your brain reinforces tenacity: persistence in the face of challenge.

This philosophy may sound familiar, like something you’d hear from a coach before a big game. And that’s because it works.

In sports, consistent effort in practice builds skill, endurance, and trust within a team. No single drill changes an athlete. No single workout defines performance. Progress is earned through repetition, structure, and commitment. The same principle applies beyond the field.

In life, showing up daily does more than improve outcomes. It shapes character. It builds reliability. It creates momentum.

So what does “Work Hard, Get Better” actually mean?

Work hard means committing to action regardless of mood or circumstance. It means understanding that belief without effort is hollow. The world doesn’t reward intention—it responds to execution. Progress belongs to those who are willing to do the work when no one is watching.

Get better is not about dramatic transformation or instant success. It’s about deliberate improvement. Incremental progress. Becoming marginally more capable, more disciplined, and more resilient than you were yesterday. Growth compounds when improvement becomes habitual.

This process doesn’t demand perfection. It demands consistency.

And once momentum is established, it sustains itself. As the principle of motion reminds us: an object in motion tends to stay in motion. The hardest part is starting. The most important part is continuing.

The work is unavoidable. The question is whether you will engage with it intentionally—or allow convenience to decide for you.

Start small. Do something difficult today. Then do it again tomorrow.

Work hard.
Get better.